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“I like deep, intellectual stuff. We’re not going to be pretty young things all our lives!”
Explaining that NutJob is a lucid communicator, KristalClear retells his belief that “happiness” is fleeting, simply an emotion in the “here and now” and that it fades as circumstances change. In contrast, “meaning” is about contribution, connection, and continuity over time. It involves being a “giver.” People leading meaningful lives derive fulfilment from giving to others, nurturing relationships, and serving causes larger than themselves, even when those commitments bring stress, sacrifice, or anxiety.
“He gives me all these great insights,” she says, “we both communicate, we talk about communication and about commitment.”
“Commitment?” asks Conning.
“A bond, not just a romance. He says that commitment is doing what you say you’re going to do when you say you’re going to do it.”
“That’s powerful. Where did he get that from?”
“His parents probably. His mum I think, you know she runs the commercial docks, she’s the harbourmaster. He has vivid, descriptive ways of articulating what he wants to say. For example … meaning, rather than happiness, forms the foundation of a deeply satisfying and resilient life.”
“He doesn’t have a brother does he?” asks Conning, knowing full well that he doesn’t.
Kayt has calmed down, she might not be vocal in this particular chat, but she’s taking it all in, thinking that there are probably some extraordinary and valuable ideas locked inside NutJob’s head … and that KristalClear seems to have the key.
“And let me get one thing straight,” says KristalClear, “this does not mean, automatically, that I’m settling down with him … this is just where things stand right now. You asked me why and I’m telling you why. We need a lot of time together before either of us says we’re ready for a real love life relationship let alone a life time relationship.”
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